Outside of my own personal salvation, the greatest grace gift, I think, is marriage. I am so very glad God said that it was not good for man to be alone, and He created a helpmate, a completer (Genesis 2:18). Today, I will preach the funeral of a lady who passed before celebrating 70 years of marriage. Yesterday, I talked to a store clerk who will soon celebrate her 40th anniversary. As we chatted at counter, we agreed that the following are needful if you are to have longevity and wedded bliss as a couple (and there are others, but here are some crucial ones):
- Work at your marriage every day.
Don’t let a day go by without kissing each other (ban the peck!), holding each other, complimenting each other, eating a meal together, sharing your heart with each other, and don’t let someone or something come between you; especially your children!
- Do the little things.
- Leave little love notes around the house or in the car or in his suitcase if he travels.
- Bring home a candy bar for him or a dozen roses for her.
- Hold hands.
- Send a text message telling each other how much you love each other.
- Husbands, seat your wife at the table and open the car door for her.
- Speak well of each other in front of the children.
- Pray together.
- Read the Word together.
- Flirt with your spouse, and only your spouse!!!
- Date once-a-week.
- Starbucks and play a game.
- Pizza on china plates after the kids go to bed.
- A drive through the country with the windows down, a picnic basket, blanket, and your favorite romantic music as you head to that secluded spot along the creek, in the mountains, or just down the road.
- Movie and popcorn.
- A stroll around the neighborhood, hand-in-hand, talking about why you love each other.
- Share a sundae at Sonic and smooch like you did when you were dating! (And we know you did.)
- Have fun!
- Don’t be a fuddy dud, a kill-joy!
- Laugh at yourself!
- Walk in the Spirit (love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, self-control)
- Enjoy each other; enjoy being with each other; your spouse should be your first choice always as your dearest companion.
- Stop at Chickfila, get an ice cream cone and sit outside under the umbrella tables. Enjoy sharing just the one cone!
- Wherever you go, make it an event.
- Make even walking through the grocery store or the mall with your spouse a fun time!
- When you leave the house, tell each other how good they look!
- Serve one another.
- Make meal time, especially supper, a well-thought out time even with the children. Be intentional.
- Pay attention to each other.
- Serve together at church; put your whole heart into worship; wear it out!!
May I encourage you to take inventory of your marriage? Be humble. Be honest. What needs to change? God didn’t create marriage for man and woman to be miserable. As I heard years ago, “Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional.” You will have hard times in marriage, but choose joy. Put these five things to practice by God’s grace and enjoy the grace gift of marriage for a long time to come!!
If you have time, you may want to click the following link and see what this couple of 67 years said was the secret of their longevity. Seven-tips-for-a-happy-christian-marriage