So, you just had another disagreement. Cross, jabbing words have been spoken. Anger is written all over your face. The strength of the door frame and hinges has been tested again. What are you going to do? The fourth way to make sure your marriage ends in divorce is to wait until things are critical before seeking help.
Marriages don’t disintegrate over night. They eventually reach the critical point when:
- You think that “hiding it under the rug” will make it go away.
- You refuse to accept that you have a problem.
- You think you can work it out on your own by your own schemes.
- You are too proud to ask for help.
- You are more concerned about what someone might think of you.
If you are in this situation, stop fooling yourself into thinking it will get better. First of all, admit to God your problem/sin and your insufficiency to correct it. Second, be honest with your spouse in a loving manner. Third, call on a trusted friend, pastor or mentor who will give you loving, forth-right biblical counsel (not tell you what you want to hear). Forth, repent and change. And last of all, walk by faith in the principles and promises of God’s Word.
Proverbs 11:2 When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.
Proverbs 11:14 Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety
Proverbs 26:12 Do you see a man who is wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.
Ecclesiastes 7:8 Better is the end of a thing than its beginning, and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.
James 4:6 But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”