So, how’s your marriage right now? Is it a delight? If it is, you have put much effort into building a good relationship. You have worked hard at being the right kind of spouse and doing the right things. Today, I want to share something else very practical that will make your marriage delightful.
Delight #4 – Stay connected
In two days, my daughter and her fiancée will recite their wedding vows. They are taking this big step believing that this is what God has ordained, but also because they want to be together for many years to come. They can hardly wait to live in the same house, sleep in the same bed, have the same last name (and how many of your girls got so excited about writing your married name for the first time?), etc.
But sadly for many couples, the excitement wears off and over time, a chasm comes between them. They are no longer connected. They don’t do things together; no more dates. They can sit in a restaurant across from each other and never say a word. They may give each other a grunt when leaving the house. They haven’t looked adoringly in each other’s eyes for years.
How can you stay connected?
- Say with meaning and heart, “I love you,” everyday and several times a day.
- Wink or look at each other with that “I’m in love with you” look.
- Let each other know what you are doing throughout the day via texts or phone calls.
- Never have a communication-less meal; talk to each other.
- Leave love notes around the house.
- Hug your wife and tell her how much you enjoyed the meal she prepared.
- As you are going up the stairs together at home or in the store, stop and enjoy a long passionate kiss; this is fun in a department store with escalators!
- When you are riding in the car, reach over and hold hands.
- Put down your ipad or smartphone and spend time with each other.
- Go to bed at the same time.
- Read a book together.
- Don’t grow old in your relationship; stay fresh!
- Pray often together.
- Touch often.
- Don’t let your precious children come between you.
- Make sure Mom has some adult conversation each day if she is home all day with babies and/or toddlers.
The living God, . . . giveth us richly all things to enjoy (1 Timothy 6:17).