June is a good month to get married. Just ask the thousands who will walk an aisle during this month to promise their lives to each other “to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge myself to you.”
June 20th, my wife and I will celebrate 36 years together. Those years have contained many, many days of laughter and joy, many days of burdens and sorrows, and many, many days of answered prayer. God has been so good to us.
Today, I want to share with you five ways to keep your marriage fresh even after 36 years. Tomorrow, I’ll give you five more.
- Be assured of a personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ alone. “God made all of us to have a personal, vibrant relationship with Him. Whoever you are and wherever you’ve been, God is personally interested in you and longs to share a close relationship with you.” Watch the following video to learn more about the most important relationship: The Gospel
- Live together in the Word of God. Since God has created marriage, the best place to learn how marriage is to operate is to read the Creator’s Word. Share with each other what God has personally taught you in His Word and read the Word together. The Word of God is never stale, so glean from its fresh manna everyday.
- Pray together. One of the best ways to keep your marriage fresh and to stay connected is to pray throughout the day together, at meals, when burdens arise, when wisdom is needed, and before you drift off to sleep.
- Have fun. It is so easy to grow old in your marriage, get used to each other, and then forget how to enjoy life. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Keep a light heart. Laugh with each other; laugh at yourself. I mean, who needs comedians? We have people! We are just funny!
- Keep on dating. Men, remember what you did to win your girl’s heart? Go back to those days.
- You can have a quiet date on the back porch after the kids go to bed . . . star gazing!
- Take a walk around the neighborhood and hold hands. Stop along the way to enjoy the flowers, the scenery, and each other. Kissing is permitted on the sidewalk in public!
- Buy one ice cream cone and share it as you sit in your car listening to the old songs of your dating years. When the ice cream is gone, put your arms to good use!
- Play a game and enjoy a bowl of popcorn.
So, what will you do today to get fresh, be fresh, and live refreshingly with your spouse?
From a pastor’s heart,