So what did you do yesterday to add some freshness to your marriage? Here’s six more suggestions to help you get fresh with each other!
- Work at your marriage every day. Marriage is never static; it never runs on auto-pilot. You are either making deposits or withdrawals. It’s the little things you do each day that make the big things you do, big! Little things like:
- A love note on the bathroom mirror (dry erase marker).
- Opening the car door for your wife.
- A wink across the room.
- A dance step or two on Aisle 5 at Kroger’s when you hear a love song being played.
- A lingering kiss on the curb of the parking lot before leaving the restaurant or on the porch just as you arrive home from that romantic date night. (Be sure to ask the hostess for a corner table)
- Saying, “I love you.”
- Read books about marriage. Men, it has been said, “Leaders are readers.” Since you are the leader in your relationship, I recommend a new book by Robert Wolgemuth, Like the Shepherd, Leading Your Marriage With Love and Grace. Ladies, my wife suggests the book What’s It Like to Be Married to Me?: And Other Dangerous Questions by Linda Dillow.
- Put down your smartphone and talk. Enough said.
- Have a set time for the children to go to bed. They are precious souls, but they can be a major hindrance to a healthy marriage. They need their rest; your marriage needs your undivided attention. By the way, make sure the kiddos sleep in their own bed . . . not with you. One day you will have to say “good-bye” to them. When you do, you want a fresh marriage not a “and who are you?” marriage.
- Get out of that rut! If you have been married for any length of time, there’s the potential for a rut-marriage. So make some plans to be creative.
- Try some different foods for supper.
- Take a different route home; not the logical way. Enjoy the journey.
- Sit on the same side of the booth at a restaurant.
- Do something wild & crazy!
- Enjoy intimacy at a different time of the day . . . make it a surprise!
- Take care of yourself. As you age, things start to shift and your body changes. Watch what you eat. Exercise. Stay healthy.
Marriage is a grace gift from God. Be sure to steward this gift in a way that will glorify Him and encourage your spouse. The Lord will help you if you seek His face. He wants your marriage to be the best.
So, stay fresh by getting’ fresh with each other, again. If you need further inspiration, read Song of Solomon.
From A Pastor's Heart 