(Enjoying the Pleasures; Avoiding the Potholes)
If you were to listen to many conversations about marriage in your world, you would leave thinking that marriage was created to make people miserable. Contrary to the world’s idea of marriage, there are many pleasures in marriages. God created us to enjoy fellowship with Him and with our spouse, all by the grace of God.
Last week we began to look at the pleasures of marriage, and I am doing so from the husband’s point of view. After all, he is the loving, servant leader in the home. So men, here we go!
The first major area of pleasure in marriage is being your wife’s protection, her security which is found in:
- Open, honest, loving communication
- Continuous pursuit
What did you do to snag your gal; to get her to marry you? Remember how you looked adorningly into her eyes? Did you open the car door for her and seat her at the table? What about those flowers, cards, and other expressions of love and pursuit?
Are you doing those things now? I will never understand why a man does so much to get his girl, but when they get married his chivalrous actions decline or cease altogether.
Certainly, it is so easy to get wrapped up in your job, your ministry, your kids, your recreation, your truck/car, and/or your own world that marriage and romance decline. Sadly, your wife becomes your meal-maker, clothes-cleaner, need-meeter . . . and that’s all.
Sir, your wife needs you to continually pursue her, to be thoughtful of her, to love her, to adore her. Give her your best every day! Kiss, hug, hold hands when you are riding in the car or walking into church, sit close beside her, leave love notes, send her a texts throughout your day, bring her flowers or her favorite candy car/treat, stop by TJMaxx and buy her a nice outfit/sleepwear/running clothes, etc.
In summary, talk to her, pay attention to her, and hold her like you do your smartphone!
Go after her like you did in the old days . . . or like you did last year before you were married.
Men, take a cue from Solomon (4:9-11) and passionately pursue your wife with your words today for starters. Take her in your arms and hold on to her like you did when you were dating!
You have ravished my heart,
My sister, my spouse;
You have ravished my heart
With one look of your eyes,
With one link of your necklace.
10 How fair is your love,
My sister, my spouse!
How much better than wine is your love,
And the scent of your perfumes
Than all spices!
11 Your lips, O my spouse,
Drip as the honeycomb;
Honey and milk are under your tongue;
And the fragrance of your garments
Is like the fragrance of Lebanon.