This past week, my wife and I have been recalling some of the events of our first week of married life which all began on June 20, 1981. We would say to each other, “Know what we were doing today 39 years ago?”
We reminisced to an outdoor gospel sing by the Inspirations at Inspiration Park in Bryson City, NC; to what we ate during our honeymoon week (Hamburger Helper, Pork Chop Casserole, Golden Grahams cereal); to the eight-sided cabin on Lake Santeetlah, NC, “in the middle of nowhere;” to where we attended Sunday morning service in Robbinsville, NC; to our drive through the Smokies to Gatlinburg; to our “hike” up Clingman’s Dome on the spur-of-the-moment (Denise was still wearing her Sunday dress and heels. I carried her 3/4 of the way…seriously.); to our stay at Rocky Waters Motel in Gatlinburg in which we had only enough money left over to buy two TV dinners for supper which we thoroughly enjoyed on our room balcony!! I promise you, the adventures have continued!!
Recently my wife shared a quote with me she had heard on a podcast about marriage. “Couples who have been married for over 35 years enjoy their marriage as much as the first year.”
One of the key ingredients, among others to accomplishing a refreshing marriage, is husband and wife must make many more investments in their marriage than withdrawals, and that is every day.
Our marriage, like every one else’s, has had days of rocky waters, no pun intended. Praise the Lord for His grace to enable us to work through those churning, troubling moments and days.
In order to look back over your marriage with joy and a good dose of sentimentality, you must . . .
- Live in the world of forgiveness and not apologies.
- Never stop dating.
- Always keep your spouse above your children.
- Pray together.
- Laugh a lot.
- Learn to listen.
- Share the Word together.
- Shut out the world.
- Enjoy romance.
- Make frequent trips, husband, to Kroger’s for those $10 dozen roses! (Sometimes on sale for $8)
- Do things out of the ordinary.
- Hold hands and pray together before you go to bed.
- Put down your cellphone or tablet.
- Take the lead, men, and ladies, let him lead.
- Walk in humility.
- Never speak of your spouse in a negative fashion in public nor run to your parents when there’s a conflict.
- Hold hands, kiss, cuddle, etc. like you did or wanted to do when you were dating. Have at it now! It’s legal and fun!!
- Be a servant.
- Adore each other.
- Don’t be a “tight-wad” all the time, guys. Splurge on your sweetheart once-in-awhile.
- Prepare your children to leave home.
There are many, many other things to add, but let me just ask, “What were you doing ____ years ago?”
Let your fountain be blessed,
and rejoice in the wife of your youth,
a lovely deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight;
be intoxicated always in her love. (Proverbs 5:18-19)