“I just received a text about my dad. My heart is breaking for him.”
My father-in-law has been dealing with several health issues for awhile. He has declined greatly due to a fractured hip coupled with dementia.
Being a dad greatly loved by his daughter, my wife has had some difficult moments through this journey.
Husbands, how can we walk with our wife down this road?
1) Be a good listener. At times, she just needs your loving heart and your caring ear. She’s not looking for you to fix the situation. Just look her in the eye and care deeply by listening well.
2) Be gentle with her. Her heart and emotions are at times fragile. Tears are ever on the verge of dropping down her cheeks. Now is not the time for harsh words but understanding communication.
3) Help her think. With her mind set on her loved ones, she will have a difficult time processing things all the time. Ordinarily, she may have a detailed, never-forget-anything kind of mind, but during these days, her mind is spent and her thoughts sometimes muddled.
4) Hold her. She needs your caring, compassionate touch as well as your shoulder to cry on.
5) Pray with her. This is the best action to take with your hurting wife. Go together to the Throne of Grace to receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need (Hebrews 4:16).
The promise made at your wedding “to love in sickness and in health” includes this category, too.
Two are better than one (Ecclesiastes 4:9). Therefore, don’t let your wife walk this journey alone.
2 thoughts on “Walking Through Sadness Together”
As a wife, helping to take care of my 85-year-old Mom with cancer and dementia, you give really good advice here to husbands. Fortunately, I have a very tenderhearted husband who helps me and my sister so much — not only with the daily burdens of caring for Mom, but those emergency times when I’m in the ER with her especially when I’m panicky. Thank God for husbands (like mine and like you) who are such a blessing. We know how hard this journey is — heartbreaking but treasures in the darkness. Praying for you guys.