To balance the scales in reference to yesterday’s post, may I, from my heart, challenge dads to consider their impact upon their daughters?
God graciously lent us three daughters to raise for His glory. He saw fit to take our middle daughter before she ever experienced the outside world of sin. She was stillborn twenty-nine years ago. What a reunion awaits us in Glory when our family will be together again for all eternity!
In spite of all the trials, bumps, mistakes, tears, miscalculations, and naivety of raising two girls, I assure you that the blessings far outweigh all the aforementioned. We are richly blessed! But . . . it takes hard work, time in the Word, and MUCH PRAYER!!!
So with that said, men, may I ask . . . what are your daughters learning from you by your example and through your instruction?
May I strongly encourage you to go back through yesterday’s list and replace all the boy/son references to girl/daughter?
And let’s add the following.
- Men, do you want your daughters to marry a man like you? They are watching how you treat their mother, how you honor or dishonor her and what you say about and to her. They hear your vocal tones, your words of endearment or criticism as well as your body actions. Men, do you seat your wife at the table, open the car door for her, send her loving texts, bring her flowers, buy her a new dress, etc.?
- Men, do you “date” your daughters? Some of the best times of my life have been spent at a gas station eating a donut with my oldest daughter . . . an every Friday morning school day routine when she was in junior high, attending a Southern Gospel concert together, driving through the night to deliver a package to a plant in Chicago, etc. And then, there was the joy of a Starbucks chat with my youngest or the meal date before heading off to college or a meal date with both girls when they were in college, or a trip to Dairy Queen. Men, you need to date your wife and your daughters.
- Men, your daughters need time with you because they need your security, your listening ear, your loving heart, your connection with their lives. If they don’t get it from you . . . then they will seek it from some fella at school or on the internet.
- Men, do you encourage your daughters; do you affirm them? (Ephesians 6:4)
- Do you show them unconditional love? (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a)
- Dads, in an absolutely appropriate way, do you still hold your daughters, hug them, kiss them on the cheek, and express your love for them?
- Do you treat your daughters with respect or talk down to them?
- Do you bring them flowers every-once-in-awhile?
To my two daughters who are now married, how blessed to be your dad!! My heart is full when you and your husbands are able to visit and we gather around our table or sit in our living room, to hear the laughter, quote our Andy lines, share our joys and heartaches, laugh at each other and just be family. How awesome to see you continue to grow in your relationships with God and your husbands!!
Accomplishing anything good as a father is ONLY by the grace of God and His sovereign leadership.
Men, your daughters are watching you.
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