Men, Kroger’s can be a real help to your marriage!
On my way home from running this morning, I stopped to buy bananas and to check our their floral department. They have the best roses for a great price . . . $10. Sometimes they run a special for $8.
Knowing that my wife was preparing for a supper guest, our oldest daughter, she would want some fresh flowers on the table.
Men, let me share a thought with you. Always look at the clearance flowers in a bucket or two usually by the floral prep desk. Yessssss! There they were! Two buckets full of fall flowers; two kinds of sunflowers in a bunch for $1.99 each!!
The marriage moment came when I arrived home with my find for my sweetheart. She met me with joy and appreciation as she was in the middle of preparing a live arrangement for the dining room table. The finished project can be seen above.
You see, men, this moment stretched into all day as these flowers stood as an anchor to this arrangement and a testament to thoughtfulness, love, beauty, care, and . . . just because. And, all it took was a stop at Kroger’s and $4. My wife doesn’t mind that I sometimes go after the clearance items because it is all a part of continuing to build and work at our marriage which is more important.
Husbands, what marriage moments have you created this week for your beloved?
By the way, men, I’ll see you at Kroger’s! The flower department is usually near the produce department.
On the scenic route through the mountains, especially the Blue Ridge Parkway, you will see many folks riding their bikes. These guys and gals are fit and trim. They are dressed for action and prepared for the long haul.
I will probably get myself in trouble here, but husbands, are you still your wife’s prince, her knight in shining armor?
Have you looked at any of your wedding pictures lately? Who are those people?
At our wedding I wore a white tux with tails, or as Jerry Clower would have called it, “a claw-hammer tail coat.” Standing 6’2” and weighing 185 pounds, I looked like a Good Humor Ice Cream salesmen. My sweet wife . . . 4’9” and weighed under 100 pounds.
The years went by and my wife began to see more and more of me. Ugh! Not good. Eventually almost 100 pounds of me! She on the other hand has given birth to three children and today is still under a 100 pounds.
Men, once we get our gal, why do we let ourselves deteriorate physically? Do we not respect her and the Lord enough to take care of our bodies?
Paul reminds us in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20, Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body, and in 9:27, But I discipline my body and keep it under control. And then John in 3 John 2, Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul. Then in 1 Timothy 4:8, Paul once again exhorts us, For while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.
Husbands, you need to be your wife’s protection, pillow and partner (Blog Posts #4 -#9), but also her prince!
In this age of fast food, video games, busyness of life and “feeding” our emotions, it is so easy to get lazy, overweight, and out-of-shape. It takes discipline, planning, and sweat to exercise yourself unto godliness and good health. Your testimony and your wife are worth it!
Husbands, begin to exercise and eat right. Deny yourself. Join up with your wife on a plan to work together to get healthy, eat healthy and stay heathy. Be honest with each other and encourage each other for your good and God’s glory!
Husbands, dress for your wife. When you are home, don’t look like a bum. Your wife is there and your kids. You can be casual without looking like you just stepped out of a dirty laundry basket.
Yes, the inner man must be renewed day-by-day, but our outward man is a reflection of what’s going on in our heart.
Something that I have appreciated about my wife from the very beginning is that she wants to look good for me. She has said many times, “I do not dress for me but for you.” I should reciprocate. She has eyes, too. She is my princess.
Also, men, in being a prince to your wife, have good manners at the dinner table (1 Corinthians 10:31). You should be the last to be served and the first to want to serve. You should seat your wife at the table. Put away your cell phones and talk to each other. You take the lead in prayer or calling on someone to pray; on having family devotions at the table if that is a good time for you.
Last of all, men, in being your wife’s prince, be polite. Read Ruth 2 and take note of how polite and kind Boaz was to Ruth. She was impressed by his gracious actions.
A prince draws his wife to himself by his kind words and deeds. Speak well of your wife in public, tell her how much she means to you, let her know that you are paying attention to her, and be sure to often speak the words “I love you.”
Recently, I have added biking to my running routine. No, I am not planning on riding the Blue Ridge Parkway for any great distance, but I am trying to do what I have encouraged you to do, men. It’s for God’s glory and for my wife.
So what did you do yesterday to add some freshness to your marriage? Here’s six more suggestions to help you get fresh with each other!
Work at your marriage every day. Marriage is never static; it never runs on auto-pilot. You are either making deposits or withdrawals. It’s the little things you do each day that make the big things you do, big! Little things like:
A love note on the bathroom mirror (dry erase marker).
Opening the car door for your wife.
A wink across the room.
A dance step or two on Aisle 5 at Kroger’s when you hear a love song being played.
A lingering kiss on the curb of the parking lot before leaving the restaurant or on the porch just as you arrive home from that romantic date night. (Be sure to ask the hostess for a corner table)
Have a set time for the children to go to bed. They are precious souls, but they can be a major hindrance to a healthy marriage. They need their rest; your marriage needs your undivided attention. By the way, make sure the kiddos sleep in their own bed . . . not with you. One day you will have to say “good-bye” to them. When you do, you want a fresh marriage not a “and who are you?” marriage.
Get out of that rut! If you have been married for any length of time, there’s the potential for a rut-marriage. So make some plans to be creative.
Try some different foods for supper.
Take a different route home; not the logical way. Enjoy the journey.
Sit on the same side of the booth at a restaurant.
Do something wild & crazy!
Enjoy intimacy at a different time of the day . . . make it a surprise!
Take care of yourself. As you age, things start to shift and your body changes. Watch what you eat. Exercise. Stay healthy.
Marriage is a grace gift from God. Be sure to steward this gift in a way that will glorify Him and encourage your spouse. The Lord will help you if you seek His face. He wants your marriage to be the best.
So, stay fresh by getting’ fresh with each other, again. If you need further inspiration, read Song of Solomon.
Years ago I heard a song written by John Barber, “Little Things,” that I have never forgotten. Within its lyrics you find, “Baby, it’s the little things that make me love you so.” Many, many times I have quoted that line to my wife. Let me quickly say that a good marriage takes work and attention every day. A good marriage is not made up of a big Valentine’s Day gift or a huge birthday gift or an abundance of Christmas gifts. A good marriage is made up of the little things that are done every day for your spouse; the little things that say, “I love you; I’ve been thinking of you.”
A text from work that reminds your spouse why they are so special to you.
Their favorite morning beverage brought to them right after they get up.
While they are in the shower on a cold, winter day, take their towel, put it in the dryer, and return it to them when they get out of the shower.
Write “I Love You” on the bathroom mirror with a dry-eraser marker.
Stop in the middle of the grocery store and enjoy a kiss right there on Aisle Four!
Just enjoy being with each other. Have fun. Be all there in the moment.
Have prayer together before you leave for work.
Hold hands while you are worshipping in song in your local church.
When the invitation is given in your church at the end of the sermon, respond together by going to the altar and meet there with the Lord.
Sit together after kids have gone to bed and talk to one another for at least ten minutes.
Husband, seat your wife at the table and open the car door for her, even when you have children. They are watching and learning from you.
Look adoring at one another, a wink, a smile when you’re in the car or walking into the restaurant.
What little things have you done today? Does your spouse know you really love him/her? “Baby, it’s the little things.”
You have ravished my heart,
My sister, my spouse;
You have ravished my heart
With one look of your eyes,
With one link of your necklace. 10 How fair is your love,
My sister, my spouse!
How much better than wine is your love,
And the scent of your perfumes
Than all spices! 11 Your lips, O my spouse,
Drip as the honeycomb;
Honey and milk are under your tongue;
And the fragrance of your garments
Is like the fragrance of Lebanon.