Years ago I heard a song written by John Barber, “Little Things,” that I have never forgotten. Within its lyrics you find, “Baby, it’s the little things that make me love you so.” Many, many times I have quoted that line to my wife. Let me quickly say that a good marriage takes work and attention every day. A good marriage is not made up of a big Valentine’s Day gift or a huge birthday gift or an abundance of Christmas gifts. A good marriage is made up of the little things that are done every day for your spouse; the little things that say, “I love you; I’ve been thinking of you.”
- A text from work that reminds your spouse why they are so special to you.
- Their favorite morning beverage brought to them right after they get up.
- While they are in the shower on a cold, winter day, take their towel, put it in the dryer, and return it to them when they get out of the shower.
- Write “I Love You” on the bathroom mirror with a dry-eraser marker.
- Stop in the middle of the grocery store and enjoy a kiss right there on Aisle Four!
- Just enjoy being with each other. Have fun. Be all there in the moment.
- Have prayer together before you leave for work.
- Hold hands while you are worshipping in song in your local church.
- When the invitation is given in your church at the end of the sermon, respond together by going to the altar and meet there with the Lord.
- Sit together after kids have gone to bed and talk to one another for at least ten minutes.
- Husband, seat your wife at the table and open the car door for her, even when you have children. They are watching and learning from you.
- Look adoring at one another, a wink, a smile when you’re in the car or walking into the restaurant.
What little things have you done today? Does your spouse know you really love him/her? “Baby, it’s the little things.”
You have ravished my heart,
My sister, my spouse;
You have ravished my heart
With one look of your eyes,
With one link of your necklace.
10 How fair is your love,
My sister, my spouse!
How much better than wine is your love,
And the scent of your perfumes
Than all spices!
11 Your lips, O my spouse,
Drip as the honeycomb;
Honey and milk are under your tongue;
And the fragrance of your garments
Is like the fragrance of Lebanon.
(Song of Solomon 4:9-11)
From A Pastor's Heart 
I always love reading your posts on marriage. This year, Jonathan and I have started reading a devotional book together first thing in the morning. It takes less than ten minutes, but I’m amazed at what a difference it makes just to start our day *together* in God’s Word!
Thank you, Christa! That “little thing” you all are doing in the morning is a huge thing for your young marriage. And, “together” is always good!! Keep writing, too!!